…..and Damn. Gee.

I’m the LAST person to say ANYTHING about romantic relationships (I think I was a Buddhist monk in my last life, or will be in my next :)), but this article shows that we are in trouble as a people. Brother Jelani was being easy on Black men. Clearly, we’re talking straight up pimps-and-hos shit under the guise of (generating, ultimately, a false sense of) Black male self-esteem. Cobb is rightfully and righteously putting brothers in check. Whether they like it or not, Black men don’t have the luxury of male entitlement at the expense of (light) brown women—or ANY women for that matter.

Master of The Obvious Statement One: I think, ultimately, that (Black) mothers and fathers have to begin to raise their children as SPIRITUAL beings who have a responsibility to each other and to the Universe. Master of The Obvious Statement Two: That’s difficult to do, however, when everything in our sexist culture says that “success” has its “privileges.” 

I’m not fronting, though. My “Where’s-My Entitlements-and-Deference?” ass is in no position to throw stones at any of these brothers. If I had mad loot instead of Cerebral Palsy, and had as my core peer group brothers who defined their purpose in the Universe as enjoying the fruits of male entitlement, I honestly don’t know what I would do/have done or not……On second thought, maybe I do.

If scores (representing hundreds? Thousands? Millions?) of Black American men between the ages of 20 and 60 feel they have no incentive (!) to emotionally reach adulthood and, frankly (PREPARES TO DUCK FROM INCOMING EMAIL ASSAULT :)), their women, as the men tell the story, have given them none (as if it’s the assumed JOB of Black women to give them this incentive!), then, gee, again. What else can you say?